The Mandy Test – Romantic lyrics in worship songs

The Mandy Test – Romantic lyrics in worship songs


In discussion about worship with a youth group recently we compared different secular song lyrics that expressed love and the group put them on a spectrum of how usable they were in worship to God.

Some struggled with the ‘cheese factor’; some pop songs have a more obviously different style to the songs we may be used to singing in church, whilst others grappled with the content and meaning behind the songs. Some felt that a bit of cheese and some ‘ooohs’ may add to mirroring David’s undignified approach to worship!

Take a look at the following lyrics; how comfortable would you feel about using them in worship? Why/why not? What makes something appropriate/inappropriate to sing in worship? Do you think God would feel as uncomfortable about hearing these words as you would singing them?

And all the roads we have to walk along are winding
And all the lights that lead us there are blinding
There are many things that I would
Like to say to you
I don’t know how

Because maybe
You’re gonna be the one who saves me ?
And after all
You’re my wonderwall

You rocked my world, you know you did
And everything I’m gonna give (You rocked my world)
And there ain’t nothing we could find
Someone like you to call mine (You rocked my world)

How do I live without you
I want to know
How do I breathe without you
If you ever go
How do I ever, ever survive
How do I
How do I
Oh, how do I live

‘Cause we belong together now, yeah
Forever united here somehow, yeah
You got a piece of me
And honestly,
My life (my life) would suck (would suck) without you

Yeh are you diggin on me
Yeh yeh yeh
Im diggin on u now baby
Yeh do u wanna little bit of my love
Yeh wait a minute wait a minute

You give me something
That makes me scared alright
This could be nothing
But I’m willing to give it a try
Please give me something
Because someday I might know my heart

Cause baby,
There ain’t no mountain high enough
Ain’t no valley low enough
Ain’t no river wide enough
To keep me from getting to you

And I love it when you call my name
I love it when you call my name
Both ends of the candle burnt by the flame
Yeah I love it when you call my name, n-n-name

I’m a slave for you. I cannot hold it; I cannot control it.
I’m a slave for you. I won’t deny it; I’m not trying to hide it.

Don’t tell me it’s not worth tryin’ for
You can’t tell me it’s not worth dyin’ for
You know it’s true
Everything I do – I do it for you

Love is all that I can give to you
Love is more than just a game for two
Two in love can make it
Take my heart and please don’t break it
Love was made for me and you

I’ll write a symphony just for you and me
If you let me love you, I’ll paint a masterpiece
Just for you to see
If you let me love you, let me love you

These words are my own
From my heart flow
I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you
There’s no other way
To better say
I love you, I love you…

And I…
Will always
Love you, oohh
Will always
Love you
My darling you

Got me hoping you save me right now
Lookin so crazy your love’s got me lookin
Got me lookin so crazy your love

It could be even more fun to play a game… worship lyric or pop song! A friend of mine recently told me about the ‘Mandy Test’. This is where if you substitute the name ‘Jesus’ with ‘Mandy’ and it still works as a lyric, then you’re stepping into the love song zone!

I wonder if part of why we compare worship songs to romantic songs is that part of romance about being showy and explicit about your love; we come across much fewer songs about how you love your grandparents or you love your peers platonically. Is it that worship songs share a link with romantic songs on this, or is it that there is something of this romance that we recognise in worship too? Is this where Songs of Songs draws this link? Is there something about being captivated by that one special person?

However, in an earlier comment to another post on this site I loved how the idea of worship becoming like a romantic getaway with God was expressed. Maybe we need to be more founded in what it means to love God, and what that looks like if it’s not just romantic and about feeling ‘in love’.

Maybe this discussion is even bigger than what words we use in worship but more about how we worship. Maybe words are always going to be problematic for some people. To look at learning styles and multiple intelligences we understand that because we are made up differently and are intelligent in different ways, (or ‘gifted’ at different things if we use more typically evangelical Christian language) then some will find it easier to express themselves with words than others.

Some of Gary Chapman’s theories on love languages tells us that people give and receive love in different ways and so maybe we need to learn a wider vocabulary of worship that is bigger than what words we express. He suggests that the 5 love languages are;
• Words of affirmation
• Quality time
• Receiving and giving gifts
• Acts of service
• Physical touch

Maybe here we find ways to worship that men in our cultural climate may feel more comfortable with. For example, I recognise that a huge way my dad shows his love for me is helping me with finances and tax advice, or washing my car. We can recognise that God loves us in more ways than just the words he uses with us, but also in the things he provides for us, for example.

Or to look to Howard Gardiner’s multiple intelligences we see that there may be other ways to get us expressing our desire to worship God at our best. The multiple intelligences he suggests are;
• Linguistic intelligence (the intelligence that we focus on when looking at lyrics)
• Logical mathematical intelligence
• Musical intelligence
• Bodily-kinaesthetic intelligence
• Spatial intelligence
• Interpersonal intelligence
• Intrapersonal intelligence
• (More recently added intelligences are Natural intelligence, Existential intelligence, and Spiritual intelligence).

Some of these intelligences we may be able to derive an easy link to. But maybe we need to get creative about what it looks like to use the fullness of our potential in worship. For example, logical-mathematical intelligence must hold a wealth of untapped ways to worship God.

Maybe this conversation is just a little part of a wider conversation about thinking about what we sing in worship. In our consumer culture maybe it is just to easy to engage with what is fed to us, rather than more actively engaging with worship and choosing carefully the words we mean and why. Maybe there is a challenge here to begin thinking about what words we’d choose for God, whether we are worship leaders or simply worshippers.

These ideas are inconclusive, but we are not just called to be led in worship by leaders, but to be communities made up of participating and worshipping individuals, who together build on a corporate identity of a worshipping community. The more we enter into conversation and discussion about these issues, the bigger a picture of both worship and God we begin to build in dialogue together.

Becca Dean is a youth worker at Carpenters Community Church in Chorleywood, England. She has particular interests in humour, creativity, theology and working out what it means to be a Christian in today’s culture. She is currently writing a book for young people on creative ways to help them pray.

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Other related posts you might find helpful:

Worship songs just aren’t for men – interview with Matt Redman

Why men hate going to church

Brian MacLaren on worship songs

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What does coming to a meeting prepared look like?

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